Dear Virginia:

First of all I want to thank you for helping me to understand my husband Kathy better. When I first discovered his FP desires I was quite upset. Later I merely tolerated his dressing in feminine attire. Now it's a different story entirely. Not only do I try to encourage and teach my new friend I find I'm also enjoying it. Everything has changed for the better for us, since I read The Transvestite and His Wife.

We have been married for 61⁄2 years (and 61⁄2 wonderful years let me add). When we first got married I had no indication of my husband's hobby (TVism). Not long after our marriage my husband told me of his feminine desires. At first my reaction was that of utter confusion and dismay. But instead of blowing my top or insisting that my hus- band seek psychiatric help, I right then and there figured and decided that I owed it to myself to obtain more knowledge in this field. I guess I thought of little else for quite a while. He and I discussed at great length the reason and compulsions behind it. As I started learning more on the subject, I found my attitude changing from the negative approach of mere toleration into the positive one of accep- tance and assistance. I realized how much he needed someone who would understand and sympathize with his desires and accept him as he was. I simply made up my mind that I would be that someone.

I don't remember when it was, but I looked over his feminine ward- robe and found some of "her" garments outdated. I was determined that if there was going to be another girl around the house, then I would do all I could to see that "she" was as much a well dressed and well mannered lady as possible. My husband “Kathie” and I went shop- ping for new things. To both our wardrobes were added new shoes, dresses, blouses and accessories.

We then began going out as two girls. It was for car rides and drive-in movies at first. When we started going out I must admit I was nervous. But after a few times I started relaxing and just accepted "Kathie" as my sister and didn't feel more ill-at-ease with her than I did with any of my other girl friends. Later on we started taking short walks together as girls. We even went shopping together as sisters in a couple of the local department stores. While I would not wish an FP husband on any woman, I say sincerely, and I mean this, that my husband's TVism has brought us a lot closer together than the average married couple.

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